Throughout recorded history, famous scientists and philosophers from Sir Isaac Newton to Paula Abdul have opined on the law of attraction. Simply put, opposites attract….or do they? Well, yes, but not when people are involved. Research shows that hobbyists will seek out others with similar interests, political types will gravitate towards their like-minded wonk brethren, and singles will be most interested in dating alternate versions of themselves. At the macro level, winners will seek out winners. The opposite is also true – losers will congregate, presumably to eat ice cream out of a giant tub and lament their collective fates.
Now you know me – I would never say anything insensitive, but WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU LOSERS?
As long as you’re a winner, everything is fabulous. You get to hang out with smart, successful people, learn their habits, emulate their behaviors, and soak in their general awesomeness. Best of all, you have a great time doing it, since these folks are personable, witty, good looking, have great hair and smell like fresh cut pine and jasmine. The rich get richer. Birds of a feather flock together. A jackdaw is always found near a jackdaw (Ok, so that last one is a little obscure – it is often attributed to Aristotle, most likely while attending a poetry slam). The main idea is that people who are already blessed with certain gifts surround themselves with others of equal or greater fortune. By creating this petri dish of perfection, its inhabitants become more skilled, more clever, more creative and more adaptable to the world we live in. How can this behavior not guarantee a positive outcome?
Since my logic is unassailable, I will ask this again, but in a different way. Assuming we all want to be successful, why do so many of us engage in the one behavior that limits our chances? Really, why does this happen? The appropriate idiom would be “If you lay down with dogs you will wake up with fleas.” I suppose (with apologies to Pink Floyd) if all you touch and all you see is all you want your life to be, then by all means keep the status quo. If you are happy with your current existence then you don’t need to aspire to anything more. If you are at peace with yourself and happy to have realized your full potential as a person (even if that translates into eating cheese popcorn on the couch), congratulations, and have fun on that couch! But don’t bitch and whine that you are stuck on a couch with orange fingers, and don’t be envious of those who stepped up and left you behind. The path to success is clearly marked, and you don’t even have to dump your slacker friends. Just start hanging around with successful people, or if you don’t know any, try hanging out where THEY hang out. At the same time, educate yourself – about anything. Business ideas, current events, job skills, media trends – just do it. If nothing interests you, find out what your target audience likes and emulate them. Over time you will find that your group of friends will change for the better and your life will take on a whole new trajectory.
In the words of tiger blood-infused actor, philanderer, and self-proclaimed warlock Charlie Sheen, “Boom, crush. Night, Losers. Winning, duh.”