It’s Sunday. Not usually a work day for me but today I’m Washington D.C. on day 4 of a 6 day trip. I’m in town for the SIBF Briefing with about 150 business leaders and entrepreneurs. It’s my first event of this kind with the SIBF and I must admit, I haven’t been impressed with the platform yet (albeit still very new), until last night and this morning during the informal networking time.
This morning I met a new friend for breakfast and convo. We were planning to chat about potential business synergies. While we did chat briefly about what the other does and where the similarities may exist, we quickly established a much stronger rapport by sharing some personal thoughts, experiences and desires. We’re both new to the organization and both have a strong desire to lead and equip other men. I’m not sure that’s the mission of others here this week although it is a core ingredient to the groups mission. I’ll know more about who’s on board and who isn’t as the days continue.
It was refreshing to visit with this fellow over breakfast and to see how our experiences are so alike. Whats more? How we arrived at the ‘safe’ place to identify the common ground.
Very few guys are willing to put themselves out there. They’re afraid of being judged, being vulnerable, and getting real.
Put You Out There
I don’t need to impress anyone. And neither do you. My story is valuable, it’s real, and it’s mine. It’s a story of hope, success, failure, indecision, hurt, laughter and much more. It’s a roadmap of what not to do, but if you do, how to navigate, re-surface and come out on top. That’s good news. People (men) can use good news and it’s up to me to share those stories.
Don’t try to see though me, but rather see me through. I love accountability. The core group of men that I walk with fully embrace accountability. We love each other through the tough times, the difficult issues and the growing up. There’s no judgement. But there are boundaries.
Often times folks will mistake my meekness for weakness. Please don’t. My vulnerability is not weakness. I simply choose to get real, take a risk and share my experiences in an effort to help other men. More often than not, I share the ugly stuff quickly so that I don’t waste my time with pretentious folks whom haven’t got it yet. It ain’t worth my time.
So it’s Sunday. A day of rest. While I’d love to be at home with my family, grilling burgers, smoking a cigar and relaxing, I’m here. And I received a gift today. I just connected with a grounded, like minded guy that I know will be a lifelong friend. I’m excited to learn from this guy and to share life with him and his family.
His story is fantastic and he has so much to share.
What’s keeping you from putting yourself out there?
Is it fear? What’s the fear about?